Friday, June 3, 2011

The Wheel of Fate

In Medieval Lit, and also in Classical and later works, one is reminded constantly on the world's fickleness, and the unreliability of worldly happiness, renown, fame, and comfort. Along with "memento mori," this may be one of the most constant themes of all literature.
In the modern world, surrounded by our crafted bubble of medical science and manufactured comforts, we forget sometimes just how vulnerable we are. But being human, we are just as prone to a fall as any human ever has been, perhaps more so because of our technological hubris, added on to the usual kind, that only creates an opportunity for error and destruction on a global scale.
I may have thought I cheated fate in overcoming the disadvantages of my early life, and by dint of sheer will and effort, climbing the face of a rock to reach a modest pinnacle. I got my house, after years of dreaming, and it is all I would have wanted. I have a loving husband and son and a wonderful community who are all I would have asked for.
But it is clear that I am subject to the same turn of the wheel as everyone else. Yesterday, on the one year anniversary of my father's death, I received notice that I may still owe thousands of dollars for my parents' medical bills, the part uncovered by medicare and the secondary insurance they held at their death. I had assumed because of a lull of perhaps 6 months in bills that I had paid all of them, so I did not have their mail transferred to our new address, but it appears I will have to contact the post office and have those things sent here, and somehow pay the bills, and all this in the face of an uncertain future.


marlyat2 said...

Make absolutely sure that you do owe--these things are often a mess. I was repeatedly dunned for pregnancy-related costs although my husband was in med school, and I was covered. Every time the student health care person changed: boom! we started over again.

And ask for no-interest payments over time if they are correct. These things are often doable. Hospitals have a lot of patients who have difficult paying.

Robin said...

Hopefully, this can be cleared up and you will find you do not owe as much as you think. Regardless, I have no doubt that you will overcome this, as you have every other crisis in the past couple of years AND with the strength that enabled you to move past all those childhood difficulties.

This does NOT signal some pendulum swinging backward in your life, a dark turn in your fate or anything of the kind. Too many good things have been happening in your life, as well!

Robbi said...

I will indeed ask for no-interest payments, and will wait and see how much I actually owe. I can hope that I will not be billed for some of it.

marlyat2 said...

Yes, good luck! Robin is right; don't give it to some doom-laden scenario!

Robbi said...

I am continuing to think of how I can improve my situation. For a long time, as my therapist points out, I was afraid to budge from that secure (if boring and unambitious) perch. Now I am forced out of the nest, and perhaps good things will come of it, eventually, if I use this as an opportunity to try out new things.