Thursday, December 31, 2009

Happy New Year Everyone!

Today I went over my parents to try to pay the owner or his representative for the 12 days I said we would stay. But he wouldn't take it until I looked at his offer and either accepted it or turned it down. I will turn it down, but first I will talk to my dad one more time about it, just in case he changes his mind.
I had a conversation with my mom, who makes no sense at all anymore. She told me how the people who visit her come mostly in the morning and around dinner time. Then they disappear. She seemed disappointed, frustrated, since they sometimes disappear in the middle of a conversation, apparently. But she says she knows they'll be back. I wonder sometimes what it is she is actually seeing, although I know they most probably are evidence of the Loey's body lesions in her brain, pure figments. Something in me wonders.

7 comments:

Lou said...

Given the delicate balance of chemistry and electronics that makes up us, it's likely all a figment. Happy New Year to you, too, Robbi.

Robbi said...

I know, Lou. But sometimes I still wonder.
I am backsliding now about the offer the owner of the old house has made. $500. per month (plus free rides to appts.) is a lot of money. But he is such a distasteful person, threatening the caregiver, that I long to put space between myself and him. So it's hard to decide. I don't think my parents would be particularly endangered by staying, but I think the care would no doubt be better at the new place, and it is certainly nicer. Yet $500. per month would mean we would take longer to run out of money entirely. I go back and forth on this.

Anonymous said...

$500 is not worth, them having better care at the new place. Remember, the old place man, is all about money not the care your parents need, move them. Of course, it will be an adjustment for them, they may resist but, quality care and peace of mind for you, is what you need.

Beth

Robbi said...

His wife cares for them well. She is gentle and kind, and my parents like her, but she is not going to live there and she is not a licensed caregiver. Plus, she has 3 children. I don't know the people who will look after them most of the time.

Lou said...

Don't second-guess yourself. It is time to move, and you've seen this move soming for a long while now. It is difficult, but time.

I meant that all of our perceptions are but figments! Not just your mom's. :)

Robbi said...

That's true about figments, and also about the move, but if this new place doesn't work out, we can always come back. That's good to know.

Anonymous said...

Ditto! Lou's comment1

Beth